Couples choose a sofa bed most successfully by agreeing first on how it will be used, then on size, then on comfort and only after that on style. Decide whether it is mainly a sofa, mainly a guest bed or a nightly bed for the two of you. Measure the room together, sit and lie on the options side by side, and settle on a fabric and colour you can both live with. Leaving style until last prevents the conversation from stalling on looks before the practical questions are answered.
Choosing furniture as a couple involves two sets of habits, two body shapes and often two very different ideas of what a living room should feel like. A sofa bed adds another layer, because it has to work as seating and sleeping space. You can browse our range of sofa beds UK together, and compare them with our wider collection of modern sofas UK to see how each option would fit the room you share.
Before looking at fabrics or shapes, sit down and agree on how often the bed will be opened and who will sleep on it. The answer changes almost everything else.
Write the answer down. When you later disagree about a specific model, return to it. It is surprisingly effective at resolving debates.
Each partner should name one or two things they genuinely cannot compromise on. For one person, it might be a seat deep enough to curl up in. For the other, it might be a fabric that the dog cannot damage, or a colour that does not clash with the curtains.
Keep the list short. If each of you has ten essentials, you will never find a sofa bed that meets them all. Two each is usually enough to guide the decision while leaving room for compromise.
Measuring together avoids the classic disagreement about whether something will fit. One of you holds the tape, the other writes down the figures.
Measure the wall where the sofa bed will sit, the depth of space in front of it and the routes to the door and window. Then measure the door frames and stairs it will pass through on delivery. Remember that the open length of a sofa bed is very different from its closed depth, so you need to know both.
If two adults will sleep on the bed, look at the mattress width as well. A standard UK double mattress is 135 centimetres wide, and a small double is 120 centimetres. A sofa bed described as a double may vary from these figures, so check the specification for each model rather than relying on the description alone.
Height differences between partners are common and they matter more on a sofa than most people expect. A taller person usually prefers a deeper seat and a higher back. A shorter person may find a deep seat leaves their feet off the floor and their back unsupported.
A medium seat depth with plenty of scatter cushions is often the best compromise. The taller partner sits back fully, while the shorter partner adds a cushion behind them. Seat height matters too. A seat that is too low can be awkward for a tall person to rise from, while a high seat may leave a shorter person perched on the edge.
For sleeping, the length of the mattress is the key figure. A taller partner should check that the mattress is long enough to lie on comfortably without their feet hanging over the end.
Partners often disagree about mattress firmness. If one of you sleeps on your side and the other on your back, you may already have different preferences in your own bed.
On a sofa bed, a medium feel tends to suit most guests and couples. Memory foam moulds to the body and reduces the sense of the frame beneath, while pocket sprung options offer a bouncier, more traditional feel. Lie on each option in the position you normally sleep in, rather than flat on your back for a few seconds.
If the sofa bed will become your main bed, consider adding a mattress topper to fine tune the feel. Some couples even keep a separate guest mattress for use on the floor or in another room. Our collection of modern mattresses UK includes a range of sizes and fillings.
This is often where couples disagree most. Fabric feels warm and soft and offers far more colour choice. Leather is easy to wipe clean and has a tailored look that some people love and others find cold.
Think about the practicalities first. Do you have pets, children or a habit of eating dinner on the sofa? If so, a performance fabric with removable covers or a wipe clean leather may be the sensible choice. Do either of you run cold in the evenings? Fabric will feel warmer to sit and sleep against.
Once you have agreed on the type, colour becomes easier. A mid tone neutral is the safest compromise: grey, stone, taupe or a soft green. Cushions and throws can then reflect each partner’s taste without needing to replace the sofa.
If one of you leans towards clean contemporary lines and the other towards something softer and more traditional, look for a sofa bed that sits between the two. A simple frame with gently curved arms, a tailored back and wooden feet often satisfies both.
Let the accessories carry the stronger style statements. One partner chooses the cushions, the other chooses the throw. One picks the rug, the other the lamp. This approach gives each person ownership of part of the room.
The furniture around the sofa bed can help too. A pair of matching modern side tables UK placed either side of the sofa gives each partner their own surface for a drink, a book or a phone, and doubles as bedside tables when the bed is open.
Whenever you can, sit on sofa beds together and spend more than a minute on each. Sit side by side, lie down, open the mechanism and close it again. Pay attention to how the seat feels when both of you are on it, as some cushions dip towards the middle.
Notice how easy the mechanism is for each of you to operate. If one partner finds it heavy or awkward, it is likely to be avoided. Firmness labels vary between manufacturers, so trust what you both feel. Our guide to mattress firmness labels for UK buyers explains why the same label can mean different things, and our guide to memory foam mattresses for UK sofa beds sets out how foam and sprung options compare.
When you have narrowed it down to two or three options, score each one out of five on the points that matter most to you both: seat comfort, sleeping comfort, size, ease of use and appearance. Add your scores together. The highest score is not automatically the winner, but the exercise often reveals that you agree more than you thought.
If you are still split, sleep on it. Literally, if you can. Return to the shortlist after a day or two and see which option you both keep coming back to.
A sofa bed chosen together, with both partners’ needs in mind, is more likely to be used and enjoyed. Begin with how it will be used, measure together, respect each other’s non negotiables and leave the style details until last. The result is a piece that suits both of you and welcomes guests too.
At Furniture in Fashion, we offer modern furniture for shared homes of every size, with free delivery to most UK mainland postcodes.
Yes, if the mattress is wide enough and deep enough. Check the sleeping dimensions of each model and look for a mattress with a comfortable filling if you will share it regularly.
A medium seat depth with plenty of cushions usually works best. The taller partner can sit back fully while the shorter partner adds support behind them.
Pull out designs usually have a separate mattress and feel more like a proper bed. Click clack designs are simpler and lighter, and suit occasional overnight use.
Choose a neutral mid tone for the sofa bed itself and let each partner express their taste through cushions, throws and rugs. These are easy to change later.
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